Loving With Passion

The wonderful world of nipple clamps!

Not all of them hurt; as a matter of fact they can become an important and pleasurable part of a persons sex life. Nipple clamps can go from gentle to down right nasty! How does that saying go? To each his own. This is true because depending what you’re into and what turns you on is really the deciding factor here if you want to experience?
Nipple Pinching Pleasure or not.

First we will start off with the charms. These ones do not hurt, as they do not Clamp down on the nipple. Instead, you would slide the thread ring around the erect nipple; you could try the Erotic Jewellery Set #2737, or the Gold Heart Nipple Charms #2698. This cord reminds me of Christmas cord, you know the metallic string like kind that you’d tie around a box. I recommend putting the tiniest drop of KS Sweet Almond Oil on the cord do the slip knot slides readily while still staying in place.
Then you have the non-piercing nipple rings, you know the ones that look like bull rings. These ones look hot and you don’t have to go through with the pain of actually getting it pierced. These ones are made with wire so you would want to bend them first so they don’t really pinch the nipple. These do add pressure and can hurt some (if the nipple is very sensitive) however; some people find a little pain to be pleasurable, the pressure of these rings are quite light. To get these on you would pull the ring apart using both index fingers and put the ring on the nipple. Faye, from I.A. says you can wear these all night and you do not get a bruised nipple. You can try White Crystal Gold Nipple Ring #2692, or Bull Rings #2696.

Now we’ll move onto clamps. There are lots of clamps to choose from and most of them are adjustable. You can choose from Lite Line (light pressure), moderate, to endurance. You can also get alligator clamps, clover clamps, and even weighted ones. These ones are excellent because you can adjust the pressure to what you like. You can try any of our SPF clamps or if you wanted to try weighted ones I suggest Penis Nipple Clamps #2690-these are adjustable and have a 1 ounce penis weight on them. We also have Tit Chain Clamps #2699 and Chain Clasps #4835; they come on a chain that can help add a more erotic feeling as it dangles on your chest. These are not adjustable so some would be more reluctant to use these these.

Who wants to worry about cords during foreplay? No need to with the completely wireless vibrating nipple clamps (#7375, & #8579). They work on button cell batteries that are contained right inside each clamp, so there are no separate battery packs or wires to get in the way -- which makes using your hands for other areas of exploration that much easier! These wonderful, hot pink or black clamps are covered in thick jelly and are completely adjustable with pressure keys on each. Simply twist the black knobs until the clamp is as tight as you want it, twist the dials on the base of each to your desired vibration speed, then sit back and enjoy! They have ultra quiet operation, which means no loud buzzing to interfere with your pleasure. You can also use the clamp on the clitoris or any other area for that matter, since it is a mini vibrator.

Dildos are for penetration, pure and simple. They don't vibrate, move, dance or sing, they just fit well in the hand and in whatever orifice you choose to use. Imagine it: your perfect penis.
With a dildo, you can pick the style, size, shape, length, width, texture and color that appeals to your particular sense of whimsy. You can select a long, short, nubby, smooth, realistic, modern, black, white or purple dildo, a dildo with testicles attached, one with suction cups that allow the dildo to adhere to the surface of your choice, or a futuristic dildo with assorted bells, whistles and gewgaws.

Vibrators vibrate; dildos fill space, whether it be vaginal or anal. While lots of people enjoy the stimuli vibrators produce, many others enjoy the feeling of fullness a dildo provides, as well as the level of thrusting control they can experience with this stationary device.

Traditional Dildos
A traditional dildo is shaped like a phallus, which means it vaguely resembles a penis. Some can be quite realistic, especially if they're made from silicone. Others look nothing like the male member. They come in all sizes, shapes, textures and colors, from the smallest insertable to the (laughably) huge twelve-inch dildo. However, they all have one thing in common: they were made for thrusting.

When considering a traditional dildo, think about what you want. Some people prefer the simple sleekness of a smooth jelly dong. Others enjoy a more realistic shape and texture. Some people like small traditional dildos and others like obscenely large ones. It's really up to you. You might try experimenting with different vegetables to determine what size works best for you. When you find a veggie that fits just right, hunt for a traditional dildo of approximate size and shape. If you're not comfortable with the vegetarian approach, you may have to let trial and error determine your acceptable girth. As for texture, stroke a few floor models if you're shopping live. Pick the material that appeals to you most. If you don't find it potentially erotic, it's a colossal waste of time.

Traditional dildos are available in a variety of different styles, most of which can be categorized into the following groups:

Realistic dildo look just like the real thing -- in fact, they're often cast from molds created from real penises. Like all sex toys, realistic dildos come in a variety of sizes, shapes, textures and skin tones, ranging from a healthy six inches to a whopping foot and a half. Most realistic dildos are made from silicone, jelly or rubber-- textures that closely resemble human skin. Many realistic dildos have testicles, veins and other natural anomalies. Increasingly popular are those cast from famous penises -- those belonging to popular adult film stars! Some people really enjoy the heft and natural look of these toys; others are a bit intimidated by these members.
Smooth Dildos: Similar to slimline vibrators, these dildos are smooth, sleek and seamless, usually constructed of silicone, jelly or translucent rubber. These toys are relatively uncommon; the lack of friction makes them undesirable for many people. However, like all sex toys, they have their devotees: some people swear the smooth ride is delectable.
G-Spot dildos come in two basic shapes: long, smooth shafts with a tilted tip, and stubby, knobby thick shafts with wide midsections. Whichever your preference, both function in relatively the same way -- they're designed to hit a woman's G-Spot, that elusive area about three inches into the vaginal canal. Women point the knobby or tilted end upward, toward the magical spot, and apply pressure. This type of dildo isn't particularly appealing to women who don't enjoy G-Spot stimulation, but those who do say G-Spot dildos are incredible. If you aren't sure about your tastes, try one out. You might really like it. If you're interested in finding out if G-Spot stimulation is for you, these dildos are a good way to begin play. Use lots of lube and remember that most women respond to firm G-Spot pressure, not gentle stroking. These types of dildos are also great for stimulating the prostate.
"Other" Dildos For whatever reason, some people prefer that their sex toys resemble anything but a penis. We've seen silicone, jelly and rubber vegetables, dolphins, mysterious wand-like creations, space-age designs with little dangly things hanging off the end -- we don't question anything! If a particular dildo exists, as weird as it may look, it must have a market. Keep an open mind and give it a try.
Some women prefer traditional dildos because using them seems more like traditional intercourse, but offer more control. In fact, some men have been known to become jealous of their partner's buddy -- why would any woman with an always-erect penis at her disposal want a big, messy man around the house? Never fear, guys. A traditional dildo can provide crashing orgasms, but it can't provide the intimacy and touch that you can..

Anal Dildos
Although some people aren't comfortable with the idea of anal play or penetration, an increasingly large number of people enjoy the intense stimulation afforded by the sensitive nerve endings found in the anus. Whether you enjoy light or deep penetration, slim or thick girth, smooth entry or lots of friction, remember to select a smooth, seamless toy for anal play, one with a flared or larger base. You don't want your toy to get lost in your rectum!

Three additional things are critical for safe anal play: communication, relaxation, and lots and lots of lubrication. Unlike a woman's vagina, the anal canal doesn't produce any sort of lubrication. The last thing you want to experience during anal play is the sharp, shooting pains that can accompany the insertion of a dry dildo. Take it slow, be gentle, and respect your partner's boundaries.

While many kinds of dildos can be used for anal play, you should always select one with a flared base so it doesn't slip in farther than you intend. The last thing you want to become is an emergency-room anecdote! For safest play, select a dildo that has been specifically designed for anal play.

Available in all sizes and shapes, anal dildos have a wide, flared base attached to a tapering shaft, which can vary in size and shape from a long, twisted phallus-shaped rod, to a short, stocky model that can be worn without restraint. Many people enjoy the sensation of fullness, similar to the sensation women experience during vaginal penetration. Other people employ a thrusting motion with their anal dildos. Whatever works. Just be gentle -- otherwise you risk anal fissures and a host of other complications.

Double-Ended Dildos
These party toys are meant for two; a double dildo is nothing more than two realistic dildos joined at the base -- with a little extra wiggle room. Any hetero- or homosexual combination can make good use of a double dildo (or "double dong," as they're sometimes called): man and man, man and woman, and woman and woman. Usually not a great choice for newbies (these dildos can appear alarmingly large), double dildos can make a tasteful addition to the true connoisseur's treasure chest.

Beads & Balls
Non-vibrating beads and balls provide gentle, erotic stimulation vaginally or anally. Joined balls, often classified as "anal balls" (although you can use them vaginally, also), are inserted then slowly withdrawn for a delicious sensation. Loose balls, often called "Ben Wa Balls," are inserted into the vagina and then rolled around internally for a subtle sensation.

Some people really enjoy the subtle sensations produced by these types of toys. Others say that beads and balls don't do much for them. Either way, you'll experience a totally different sensation than you would with a vibrator or regular dildo, so be patient and keep an open mind. You might find a new favorite!

Sexual desire, also known as libido, is the name for interest in sex. It is generally accepted that men’s and women’s desire for sex can vary. For example, most women find their desire for sex changes throughout the menstrual cycle, when they are pregnant or breast-feeding and after the change of life (the menopause). Feelings and relationships may greatly influence the desire for sex in many women. Excitement or arousal is the awakening of sexual feelings when we feel turned on and ready for sex. These feelings can be produced by simply seeing someone we fancy, being touched by or touching our lover, having a sexual fantasy or having our genital area touched. Arousal may, or may not, lead to orgasm Emotional effects on desire and sex drive
Desire and sex drive make us act in a certain way when we are sexually aroused. Desire is not static, it changes over the years. Many things can reduce sexual desire. Factors that affect desire include:

tiredness
stress
mood changes (such as anxiety)
changes in contraception methods
feeling unhappy about our body
relationship problems
past traumatic sexual experiences
excessive drug or alcohol use
and boredom with your sexual routine.
Our desire for sex is greatly affected by our state of mind. If you are depressed, anxious or afraid about your cancer, its treatment or your relationship, you may find it more difficult to be aroused by thoughts of sex. Physical effects on sexual response

For the phases of sexual arousal to occur, certain systems in the body need to be working normally. Excitement, plateau and orgasm will only happen if the body has a good blood supply, if the nerves to the pelvic area are intact and if the balance of hormones in the body is right.

Sex & Pregnancy
A lot of people have concerns about having sex during pregnancy. Fortunately, for most women and their partners, sex can be a lot of fun when you’re pregnant and there are some things you can do to make it easier and more enjoyable for both of you.

The first thing to know is that pregnancy can cause just as many changes to your sexual desire and pleasure as it can to other aspects of your life. Some women find that they become aroused more easily, while others find that their interest in sex wanes. Similarly, some women find that they need to use a lubricant during sex, while others find that it’s not at all necessary (even if they’ve been using lubes for years). With all of these changes, you may not be able to assume that what you usually enjoy is going to work for you during pregnancy. It’s important to be able to talk about all of this with your partner.

Many women report that being on their back, especially late in pregnancy, isn’t very comfortable. But there are a few other positions that work well, whether you like intercourse, oral sex, sexual massage, solo sex, or any other sexual activity.

On Top
Whether you’re having oral sex or intercourse, being on top will give you plenty of control over the depth of any penetration. It also lets you control the movement, so you can change things quickly if anything feels especially good. It also works well for penetration towards the end of pregnancy.

On Your Side
There’s a reason that lots of pregnant women sleep on their sides- it’s more comfortable. In this position, you can have intercourse with shallow penetration, especially if your partner lies behind you. It can also work well for sexual massage, masturbation and even oral sex if you bend your upper leg and place it on a pillow.

Hands and Knees
The lack of pressure on the abdomen makes this a great position for pregnant women. Plus, it lends itself to almost any kind of sex, so you have lots of options. Later in pregnancy, your belly may rest on the bed, so if that’s not comfortable, rest your hands on a pillow or sex positioning tool for a little extra lift. These cushions are firm enough to give you support, yet soft enough to be comfortable. Plus, the machine washable covers make cleanup a breeze.

When to Not Have Sex
For most pregnant women, the decision to have sex can be made based on personal desire. But there are some risk factors that may make avoiding sex a better choice.

If your doctor, midwife or other health-care provider considers your pregnancy high-risk, they are probably going to recommend that you not have sex. Some of the more common risk factors include:

A history of premature birth or labor
A history or risk of miscarriage
Placenta previa (Where part of the placenta is covering the cervix)
A history of or risk of pre-term labor (e.g. premature uterine contractions)
Your water has broken
You are currently experiencing bleeding
You are carrying twins, triplets, etc.
Please check with your medical professional to make sure that sex will be safe.

A Note About Sexually Transmitted Infections If you or your partner may have an STI (sexually transmitted infection), then safer sex is definitely important. That means using condoms for any penetration, gloves on hands and dental dams for oral sex. Please read our articles about safer sex here for all the info you need to make it fun and hot!

Using a Speculum for Vaginal Self-Examination

Speculum
A speculum is the device used in gynecological exams for spreading the vaginal walls apart enough to see the cervix. This duck-bill-shaped device enables the person performing the exam to get a clear view of any changes in the cervix, vaginal secretions, indications of fertility, and to identify and treat common vaginal conditions such as yeast, trichomonas and bacterial infections. A speculum is most often used by doctors, yet is also a useful health tool that can be used by any woman who wants to perform self-examinations and monitor her own vaginal health. Rather than depending on a physician to look at your cervix once a year, you can learn what your cervix looks like day by day and keep your health in check.

To insert a speculum, use two fingers to spread the inner vaginal lips while holding the bills of the speculum tightly together with the thumb and index finger of the other hand. Guide it into your vaginal canal; you can use a water-based jelly lubricant or even water to make insertion smoother. In most examinations the speculum is inserted with the handles upright (which is for the doctor's convenience) but inserting it sideways works just as well, and many women find this more comfortable.

To open the speculum, pinch the handles together. This forces the bills apart and stretches the vaginal walls to reveal the cervix. Hold the handles tightly together and slide the short handle down while sliding the long handle up. You will hear a sharp click, locking the speculum in place. You may want to practice this locking maneuver a few times before actually using the speculum, so you can do it comfortably. Once the speculum is locked, your hands are free to hold a mirror and a light, such as a gooseneck lamp or flashlight. When using a flashlight, shine the beam into the mirror to reflect the light onto the cervix.

You may not be able to see your cervix right away, and it may take several tries to get a clear view. If you don't succeed on the first try, adjust your body a bit; moving your pelvis a little will sometimes bring the cervix into view. Try lying on a perfectly flat surface; a tabletop or the floor both work well for self-exams. When you see the cervix it will look like a round or flattened knob (between the size of a quarter or 50-cent piece) in the shape of a fat donut with a hole or a slit in it. This small hole is called the cervical os. Menstrual blood and uterine secretions pass through this opening, and so do babies during childbirth.

Your cervix might appear pink and smooth, uneven and blotchy, or may even have a few reddish spots. The variations in appearance have nothing to do with sex drive, your size, or whether or not you have had children. Do the exams regularly so you can spot marked changes at unusual times in your menstrual cycle. Get to know your body's rhythms and the ways in which your cervix changes throughout your cycle, and if you notice changes notify your doctor right away.